Weddings are supposed to be the best days of our lives, but sometimes things can get complicated. The situation can become worse when having someone from the side interfering with the guest list or your partner hiding big secrets. And when the groom sides with his family instead of his bride, the wedding is likely to be over before it even begins.

That’s exactly what happened to a bride who took to Reddit for help.

“I (27 f) and my fiancé, Alex (30 m), have been engaged for a year and were planning our wedding for the end of the summer. Everything was going smoothly until a couple of weeks ago, when Alex’s family dropped a bombshell.

Alex’s family is very close-knit and has always been involved in our wedding planning. Recently, I found out that they had invited Alex’s ex, Sarah (29 f) to the wedding. Alex and Sarah were dating for about 5 years and broke up about 2 years ago. They’re still on good terms, but I was never comfortable with the idea of her being at our wedding.”

“When I brought this up to Alex, he said that it’s a family tradition to invite former partners if they’re still friends and that it would be rude to exclude her. He insisted that it was no big deal and that Sarah was just a part of their extended social circle. I tried to explain that having Sarah at our wedding made me feel uncomfortable and undermined the significance of the event for me.

Alex’s response was that I was being unreasonable and selfish for not considering his family’s feelings. He argued that it would cause unnecessary drama if we uninvited Sarah now, and that we should just focus on enjoying the day. I couldn’t shake the feeling that this wasn’t just about inviting an ex, but also about my place in Alex’s life and whether I was truly a priority.”

“After a lot of back-and-forth, I decided that I couldn’t go through with the wedding under these circumstances. I canceled the venue and all the plans we had made, explaining to Alex and his family that I couldn’t commit to marrying someone who wasn’t willing to respect my feelings about such a significant issue.

Now, Alex and his family are furious with me. They believe I am overreacting and that I should have been more accommodating. Some of my friends and family think I did the right thing, while others feel I might have acted too impulsively.”